Connectedness

A word not overly used and so with some capacity to be useful rather that hackneyed jargon!

If one thinks about it, being connected is at the foundation of all successful interaction.

In order to achieve sustainable connectedness one must take self-responsibility in providing the foundation of trust and respect, through behaviours and sentences. New ways!

It may seem easy to achieve connectedness with people who havesimilar background experiences and core values however, life is littered withexamples where at some stage, for some reason, what was working stops!

It seems to then that one waits on the other to find aremedy first – to put out the fire, re-establish that connectedness.

Collectedness can be seen to be more difficult where thereis obvious differences; nationality, culture, gender, age etc.  There are just as many failed relationshipsbetween people of the same group is there from outside the streets, thedifference maybe that more are sought within groups than outside of groups forall sorts of preordained reasons and assumptions.

Connectedness:- a couple of dictionary meanings
] adjective - http://www.dictionary.com/browse/connectedness

1.united, joined, or linked.

2. having a connection.

3. joined together in sequence; linkedcoherently:connectedideas.

4.related by family ties.

5.having social or professionalrelationships, especially with influential or powerful persons.

The stateof being connectedand having a closerelationshipwith other things or people:http://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/connectedness



So being connected from a colourthinking point of view, regarding interpersonal communication, is about

a. establishing equal value between parties
b. letting go of assumptions and judgements
c. putting aside any untoward use of hierarchy
d.looking to make more of the objective than the subjective
e.looking to share control and ownership
f. being genuine and not using manipulation without care 
g. establishing ground rules that allow for effective debate / discussion - not walking on egg shells
f. solving differences quickly
g.giving up the blame game, the who's right and wrong 

So much of teaching in management is about problem solving and responsibility of managers. Leadership on the other hand is about using the power of the number to identify problems, develop solutions and design and implement plans to achieve shared objectives - leadership thinking is much more likely to achieve connectedness.

This connectedness opens up all manner of possibilities, allows leverage from the experiences of others, commitment to plans developed; connectedness allows people to come and go from work knowing the are respected, sharing their energy throughout their whole of life. 

One might say that the need to comply with Duty of Care (providing a safe physical and psychological workplace) is enhanced and sustainable only when there is connectedness present.

What can get in the way?

In any environment work or social or even family, there will be those people who are just more easy to work with, get 'it' faster, present more positively. The ting is, working with these people is not leadership empowering but allowing. It will be, (he says after many years of experience) that generally a greater number of people will not fit the above description as easily, to various degrees. It will be easier to be 'connected' to these people than the others.

Quite apart for the quantum benefit to the organisation by connecting to everyone, that should be maybe sole focus of the leader - empowering, delivering respect and integrity, connecting to those outside the sanctum.

the conversation continues soon - as at 16.3.16