Marriage - this is not about who should get married, the 'gay' or not 'gay' argument that is so tediously dragged out - finding ways to disregard love , it is about the concept of people sharing a committed relationship and caring for themselves and through that, caring for their partner. 

Maybe caring for the partner is the first step? At a recent wedding I attended the learned and caring preacher shared many words of wisdom, I have captured some of them below.


First, asattraction,
 which becomes friendshipwhich in turn has grown into the love which finds its fulfilment in thecommitment they are making to each other in this place at this time

To have and to hold, from this day forward, for betterfor worse, for richer and poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and tocherish, as long as we both shall live.

 Wear compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strengthand discipline.

Be even tempered, content with second place and quickto forgive an offence.

Forgive as the quickly and completely as the Masterforgave you.

And regardless of what else you put on, wear love.

It’s your basic, all purpose garment.

Never be without it.

Part of - Colossians, Chapter 3, Versus 12 to 14

 Marriage is a major milestone in thejourney we call ‘falling in love’. What is even more important is ‘staying inlove’ and ‘growing in love’.

            "Othe blessing it is to have a friend to whom we can speak fearlessly on anysubject; one with whom one's deepest, as well as one's most foolish thoughtscome out simply and safely.

   Othe comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, havingneither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right outjust as they come, chaff and grain together, certain that a faithful hand willtake and sift them, keep what is worth keeping and then, with a breath ofkindness, blow the rest away”.

 

And the wordsof the philosopher, Albert Camus,

 "Don’t walk infront of me - I may not follow,

 Don't walkbehind me - I may not lead,

Walk besideme - and just be my friend”.

This kind oflove goes beyond friendship and far beyond passion.

Passion rises and fallswith our moods and circumstances. But this quality of love remains strong andconstant. It has little to do with our emotions. It has nothing to do with howwe feel. It comes from the will. It is a matter of choice and commitment andisn’t a passing thing. It is a principle by which we deliberately choose tolive.

You have thepower to determine your own mindset towards your partner. It is the commitmentyou make to act always and only in the highest interests of the one who is theobject of that love. It is unselfishness, loyalty, devotion. This dimension oflove is the highest form of love known to humanity and devoted to the wellbeing of the other. It is a chosen mindset ofpositive and constructive intention.

 is everything Paul meant when he wrote –

"Love is very patient andkind, never boastful or proud, never arrogant,  selfish or rude.

 

Love doesn’t demand its ownway. It isn’t irritable or touchy. It doesn’t hold grudges, and doesn’t noticewhen others do wrong. It is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenevertruth wins out. If you love someone you will always be loyal to them no matterwhat the cost. You will always believe in them, always expect the best of themand always stand your ground defending them.

 

Faith, hope and love alwaysremain, these three; and the greatest of these is love.”

 May you spendthe rest of your lives discovering yourselves andeach other. May you find the deepest happiness life can give you, from todayand for always.